No matter what the situation is between you and your husband, from being on trial separation, constant fighting, detachment between both of you to him even leaving you, it’s still possible to save your marriage.
Here are some things you can do to get your husband back.
Get a Grip
OK, so your husband left you, you don’t know what to do, your in shocked and can’t sleep or eat. All you can think about is that your world is falling apart and you want your husband back.
First thing to do is CALM DOWN and get yourself together. If thoughts of blame is running through your mind. Stop. A marriage consist of 2 people. Whatever that caused this situation is not all your fault. There are some things that your husband could have done or said to prevent the situation from going in this direction. Don’t take the blame for him leaving you.
Stop All Forms of Communication
Next, stop all communication with him. Avoid calling, texting, emailing and “accidentally” running into him. The more you do these things, the more you will push him away. Eventually you will have to get in touch with him to sort out your marriage, but right now it’s too soon.
I know it might be torture or seem counter intuitive, but wait 1-2 weeks until you contact him. Give him some time to be rational and think about what he’s doing.
Boost Your Confidence
In the meantime, take this time for yourself. Even though it’s the last thing you feel like doing, go do something nice for yourself. Take a relaxing bubble bath, go buy a new outfit, get a haircut. You get 2 benefits for doing this. One, you begin to feel better about yourself after your self esteem and confidence took a beating when your husband left you.
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Second, the next time you see your husband, the last thing you want is to look miserable and for him to see how much him leaving you really took a toll on you. Roles reversed, if you saw your husband looking all desperate and needy, would you really want to take him back? Again, you MUST attract love instead of demand for it.
When you boost your self-confidence, you are telling your subconscious mind that you DESERVE to love and be loved. You are allowing yourself to attract love and more of it when you LOVE yourself. If you can’t love yourself, how in the world is someone else suppose to love you?
By boosting your self-worth and love, you will be in a much better state of attracting your husband back. Beauty is more than how you look on the outside. Beauty begins on the INSIDE because no matter what you look like on the exterior, true beauty can outshine whatever you’re wearing or however you look.
For example, have you ever seen a drop dead gorgeous woman? But if you’ve ever gotten to know that person for who they truly were and perhaps her exterior beauty was all that she had going for her? Beauty is more than skin deep and by boosting your self-confidence, you are cultivating your inner beauty, which will definitely attract a lot more men and people your way, especially your husband.
When occurs During The First Meeting since He Left You
After a few weeks to collect your thoughts, plan a time to meet, as mentioned above, look put together and confident (not as if a train derailed on you). Once you guys had the time to catch up (keep the conversation lighthearted). Your going to have to bring up your marriage. Tell him that you had plenty of time to think of the situation and what went wrong in marriage. If you want to salvage your marriage, tell him some things need to change and your committed to making it work.
Chances are he has had plenty of time to think about your marriage as well. If he still loves you and is willing to work at fixing your marriage than great news for you! Keep in mind it will take a lot of effort from the both of you to save your marriage.
Admitting That Your Marriage Needs Help is the First Step To Fixing it!
As a side note, if you truly want to save your marriage, you’re going to have to actually take ACTION. This means, no more thoughts of “Oh, it will get better someday” because your marriage will NOT get better on it’s own.
When you stopped trying to cultivate your marriage, your connection with your spouse began to slowly weaken to the current state it’s in now. For example, what do you think happens when you stop taking care of your body by eating a lot of junk food along with the lack of exercise? Your body slowly starts to deteriorate and weakens. Same goes for your marriage. In order to have a successful relationship, you need to strengthen your connection with your partner. Take the next step here and save your marriage before it’s over.