Anger is a among one of the most common emotions in being a human being. Some people are constantly in a state of being angry while some people rarely get angry at all. It’s a completely normal emotion. It’s how you choose to respond with your anger is what matters most.
Many fights in marriage break out from anger and how some people who allow themselves to get swept away by this emotion.
Anger is an an emotion that keeps leads to thoughts of vengeance, allows us to judge, manipulate, humiliate, criticize, and hurt people with our words.
The most important thing to dealing with anger is how we choose to respond to it.
Many relationships deteriorate because of the anger that is caused by every day stresses. Many people bring stress home from work and that stress usually ignites anger in their relationships. The best way to prevent and deal with fights in marriage is learning to manage your anger.
When dealing with anger and to prevent fights in marriage, ask yourself:
What chain of event has led me to be this angry?
What are the benefits of my anger?
How can I transform my anger and begin to think clearly?
Decompress Your Emotions Through Communication
Most people have a knack of holding their emotions in and desperately avoid “losing face.” Unfortunately, holding back your emotions is just a disaster waiting to happen. If you don’t like to come face to face with your emotions, when it comes down to it, you’re eventually going to have to cross that bridge, and when you do, it’s not going to be pretty.
For example, coming home from a rough day at work puts you in a bad mood. You come home and you easily get irritated and you end up taking it out on everyone around you, including your spouse.
This happens to many people every day. The stress from their day at works leaks out into their personal lives at home, causing many fights in marriages.
Instead of letting your frustrations buildup and eventually exploding, why don’t you communicate with your spouse and give them a heads up that you’re in a bad mood but it’s not their fault. Ask them to give you a few minutes to decompress from your day because you don’t want to take it out on them.
Your spouse will surely appreciate this rather than finding out for themselves that you’re in a bad mood and getting in a fight with you. When you find that you are upset, angry or even hurt, communicate your feelings to your spouse. Make sure you do it a calm and tranquil way rather than using negative and aggressive comments.
If you wait later on expressing your emotions, your emotions will come rushing out like a volcanic explosion, putting your partner on the defense mode, causing fights in marriages.
When your voicing your own opinion, do it in a manner of respect and understanding that your spouse has their own opinions as well.