I’m sorry for the hurt and pain you’ve had to go through that led to this moment. There aren’t any “official” marriage separation rules but there are things you and your spouse can be sure to do to make sure you make the most out of your separation. Like what PsychologyToday.com said, instead of calling it a marriage separation, think of it as an ‘Enhancement Separation’ because a separation CAN improve your marriage.
Before the Separation
First and utmost before you and your spouse officially separate, you both need sit down and set the ground rules. Make sure you and your spouse are on the same exact page concerning the logistics of a marriage separation. Do you and your spouse have similar goals as to the purpose behind the separation?
Are you separating in order to get some breathing room so you both can reevaluate your marriage and figure out where you both went wrong? These are some questions you have to ponder about and it’s considered as one of the most important Marriage Separation Rules.
Or perhaps, your spouse is completely committed to saving your marriage but you’re using this separation as an excuse to slowly push yourself even further away from your spouse (if this is the case, you might as well divorce now). Whatever the intentions are behind a marriage separation, make sure you and your spouse put every thing out on the table.
Make sure you both address the length of time you and your spouse are going to be separated. Is it going to be 3-6 months, or perhaps even longer? I wouldn’t suggest being separated for more than 1 year.